I’ve been noticing the same theme coming up again and again — in counselling sessions, mediation work, everyday conversations, and of course in the wider narratives circulating through (social) media.
Relationships are changing. Not because people suddenly care less, or are irreparably traumatised, or are “asking too much” — but because the conditions in which we relate have fundamentally changed.
Many partnerships are no longer held together by necessity, fixed roles, or social pressure. Instead, people are asking relationships to offer emotional safety, mutual growth, and genuine choice. When those conditions aren’t present, more people are choosing to opt out — which helps explain why, globally, there are more single adults than ever before.
That is not a small shift. It asks something very different of us than what many of us witnessed growing up, or were implicitly taught about what relationships are meant to be.
At the same time, most of us were never given clear examples, shared language, or practical skills for how to be in this newer relational terrain. We’re often expected — or quietly hoping — to navigate independence and true intimacy, difference and closeness, without much guidance for how to do that well.
Over the coming weeks, I’ll be sharing reflections on what this evolving relational landscape asks of us — and what actually helps when connection feels strained or conflict keeps repeating.
And as a gentle reminder: the practice is open throughout January. If things are a little quieter, it may be a good time to create some space for support if you need it. We can connect online if you are out of town.
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